Learn to forgive To forgive may be divine，but no one ever said it was easy．When someone has deeply hurt you，it can be extremely difficult to let go of your complaints and hatred．But forgiveness is possible—and it can be smprisinglY beneficial to your physical and menta health． “People who forgive show less depression，anger and stress and more hopefulness，”savs Frederic，Ph．D，author of forgive for good．“so it can help save on the weal"and tear on our organ，reduce the wearing otit of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital．” So how do you start the healing?Try following theses steps： Calm yourself．To remove your anger，try a simple stress—management technique．“Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives your pleasure：a beautiful scene in nature，someone you love，”Frederic says． Don，t wait for an apology．“Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizin9，”Frederic says．“They may have wanted to hurt yOU or they just don’t see things the same way．So if you wail for people to apologize，you could be waiting an awfully long time．”Keep in mind that forgiveness doesn It necessarily mean reconciliation(和解)with the person who upset you or neglecting his or her action． Take the control away from y．our offender．Mantally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain。“Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings，learn to look for the love，beauty and kindness around you，”Frederic says． Try to see thirigs from the other person’s persepective．If you empathize with(与…产生共鸣)that person，you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance，fear-even love．To gain persepective，you may want to write a letter to yourself from yotit offender’s point of view． Recognize the benefits of forgiveness．Resem ch has shown thai people who forgive report more energy，better appetite and better sleep patterns． Don，t lorget to forgive yourself．“For some people，tbrgiving themselves is the biggest challenge，”Frederic says．“But it can rob you of your self—conridence if you don t do it” 1．1By saying that forgiveness“can help save on the wear and tear on our organs，”Frederic，Ph．D．means that____． A．people are likely worn．out by cryin9．when they get hurt B．we may gel physically damaged if we stick to the hurt C．our physical conditions benefit most from forgiveness D．the immune system is closely related with our organs 2．When you try to calm yourself，you are actually trying to_____． A．recall things you love B．show you arc angry C．relieve your stress D．breathe normally 3．Your offender may not want to apologize because_____． A．they are afraid that they won’t be forgiven B．they don，t even．realize they had hurt you C．they don’t share the salTle feeling with you D．they think that time can heal any wound 4．You will still be under the control of the ofiender if A．the offender refuses to reconcile with you B．you keep reminding yourself of the pam C．the offender never feels soory to you D．you don’t find love，beauty or kindness 5．Which of the following enables you to gain the offenders’s perspective? A．Empathizing with the offender B．Realizing the reason for the offender’s action C．Writing a letter to the offender D．Doing the same thing the offender did to you 参考答案： 1．B 2．C 3．C 4．B 5．A把职称英语页面加入收藏